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Father Loss: Girls and Grief
Wednesday, June 28, 2017 by Cynthia Waderlow MSE, LCSW
I’ve been reflecting on the collective body of children’s grief work from which I’ve been privileged to learn in our LOSS Program for Children and Youth. It has been over six years now. Young people stay to talk over varying lengths of time from weeks to months to years. There are so many intervening variables that affect the grief work of a young person, and also some tricky consequences of parental loss that I have become aware of as a result of watching the development of bereaved children and teens. Sometimes I like to share my impressions and questions. Girls seem to stay involved with expressive grief work longer than boys do. Maybe this is because I am a female therapist, or maybe it has something to do with the relational sensitivities that we associate more often with females even from a young age. Whatever the causal factors, today I am writing primarily about my experience with father bereaved girls, but it opens to broader questions about identity development for daughters who lose fathers and sons who lose mothers. Make no mistake, boys can be sensitive too, and certainly experience consequences of parental loss. I do see this, but it is fair to qualify that most of my impressions at this time stem from my counseling relationships with girls whose fathers have died from suicide. And father loss does stand out in the counseling program’s history because men die from suicide at a significantly greater rate than do women.
Restoring Family Stability after a Suicide
Monday, September 18, 2017 by Cynthia Waderlow MSE, LCSW
Every family has various needs for structure. As they grow, families will create the rules and routines that support their ability to function. We know that families have different resources and various amounts of structure supporting day-to-day living, but if they have inadequate structure and routine for too long there can be emotional and behavioral reactions.

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Managing Traumatic Bereavement
Friday, July 01, 2016 by Cynthia Waderlow MSE, LCSW
In May some of our LOSS clinicians attended a conference devoted to the impact on survivors of sudden death or traumatic bereavement. We were moved by the seriousness of the subject because it has so much relevance for families who have experienced a suicide loss.
From the Desk of Father Rubey
Wednesday, June 01, 2016 by Father Rubey
In June we celebrate Father’s Day which is a day set aside to honor fathers in a very special way. It is a painful day for those fathers who have lost a child to suicide, for those children who have lost a father, a grandfather or a father figure. Such a day is filled with a void because that person is not here to be honored and there is pain or possibly guilt because those survivors might feel that they let this man down while he was alive or have regrets that the survivors could have been kinder and more loving towards this father, grandfather or child. With this death the time to be demonstrative of love and affection is over and the guilt or regret take over to torture the survivors.