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Restoring Family Stability after a Suicide
Monday, September 18, 2017 by Cynthia Waderlow MSE, LCSW
Every family has various needs for structure. As they grow, families will create the rules and routines that support their ability to function. We know that families have different resources and various amounts of structure supporting day-to-day living, but if they have inadequate structure and routine for too long there can be emotional and behavioral reactions. As parents, we instinctively take steps to “get back to normal” following sickness, vacations, too much activity, conflict or time away from home.


Visions of Those We’ve Lost
Tuesday, March 01, 2016 by Cynthia Waderlow MSE, LCSW
Writing this month, I am drawing from my personal experience with grief.  The grief experiences of some teens and adults that have been shared with me in counseling sessions have often been intimate and vivid, and I sometimes take what others have shared and use them to examine my own response to loss.  I observe in others and notice in myself that a visceral, experiential memory of the deceased person may be an automatic grief response that applies to almost every age of survivor.   How might we otherwise explain these intense moments that seem to capture us and stop time?  Perhaps this is one way we attempt to compensate for a loss, to repair an intolerable breach of attachment.
Is My Child Grieving?
Monday, February 01, 2016 by Cynthia Waderlow MSE, LCSW
I often talk with new LOSS members who are parents with children at home. They are clearly reaching out for direction and support, still shell-shocked perhaps months later, but responding to a sense that they need to make sure their kids are okay. I may hear, “She doesn’t seem to be grieving. How can I tell?” These parents have no problem recognizing their own grief. Clearly, attending to each day is an effort. They struggle with emotional absence where their children are concerned. They are able to talk about the new imbalance in their physical and emotional systems. They describe “waves” of grief, in which they feel overwhelmed with grief and sadness. Their children and teens, on the other hand, appear to have shown only initial sadness, but life still engages them. They play video games, watch TV, do homework, see friends, yet the parent senses that their child has also been changed by the loss. So parents wonder if it is normal when their child appears unchanged.