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Keeper of Memories
Wednesday, November 28, 2018 by Cynthia Waderlow MSE, LCSW
I’d like to extend some brief thoughts about family grief through the holidays. There is a lot written on the subject to be found on the internet and various bereavement books. No wonder, because holiday traditions have “normal” and “what we always do” baked into them. When a loved one central to the family has died from suicide, these days can be approached with perhaps too much hope that they will help us feel better, or only dread or confusion.

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From the Desk of Jessica Mead
Friday, April 01, 2016 by Jessica Mead
“We humans are social beings. We come into the world as the result of others’ actions. We survive here in dependence on others. Whether we like it or not, there is hardly a moment of our lives when we do not benefit from others’ activities. For this reason it is hardly surprising that most of our happiness arises in the context of our relationships with others.” –Dalai Lama – 
Attending to Family Grief
Friday, April 01, 2016 by Cynthia Waderlow MSE, LCSW
Grief really is a family process.  It is private, but also influenced by and shared with family members.  When families use our LOSS Program for Children and Youth we meet unique configurations of individuals that are differentiated by birth order, temperament and personality, gender and age, family role and relationship with the person who died.   After a suicide the caregiver or parent is faced with a sense of need on the part of all of her children at once; yet each one may be presenting differently.  And there is a range of grief responses among children as well as adults that are influenced by developmental stage as well as the attributes I’ve mentioned.  So, how do you attend to the different needs of your bereaved children?  They are watching you in your grief, and you are setting an example for authenticity, hopefulness and the ability to compartmentalize your emotions as your care for those who depend on you.  You begin the process of rebuilding your family by questioning and attending to each child’s loss needs and developmental tasks.  You can reflect to each child what you see and hear as they respond to their loss, and also model self-care, and valuing of genuine grief expression.