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From the desk of Deborah Major
Wednesday, July 12, 2017 by Deborah Major
When LOSS members first come to our support groups we sometimes hear them say, “I know I’ll never ‘get over’ this.” Or they might ask, “Does anyone ever ‘get over’ this?” We also hear these same worries from clients in individual counseling.
Father Loss: Girls and Grief
Wednesday, June 28, 2017 by Cynthia Waderlow MSE, LCSW
I’ve been reflecting on the collective body of children’s grief work from which I’ve been privileged to learn in our LOSS Program for Children and Youth. It has been over six years now. Young people stay to talk over varying lengths of time from weeks to months to years. There are so many intervening variables that affect the grief work of a young person, and also some tricky consequences of parental loss that I have become aware of as a result of watching the development of bereaved children and teens. Sometimes I like to share my impressions and questions. Girls seem to stay involved with expressive grief work longer than boys do. Maybe this is because I am a female therapist, or maybe it has something to do with the relational sensitivities that we associate more often with females even from a young age. Whatever the causal factors, today I am writing primarily about my experience with father bereaved girls, but it opens to broader questions about identity development for daughters who lose fathers and sons who lose mothers. Make no mistake, boys can be sensitive too, and certainly experience consequences of parental loss. I do see this, but it is fair to qualify that most of my impressions at this time stem from my counseling relationships with girls whose fathers have died from suicide. And father loss does stand out in the counseling program’s history because men die from suicide at a significantly greater rate than do women.

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When Teens Grieve a Sibling’s Suicide
Sunday, January 01, 2017 by Cynthia Waderlow MSE, LCSW & Deborah Major, PhD, LCSW
Family systems are often initially paralyzed by the suicide death of a child, with parents being the primary focus of grief support, as suicide grief literature has identified the loss of a child as among the most devastating for parents.   A 2005 study on sibling suicide bereavement for children who are still at home identify these children and adolescents as “the forgotten bereaved,” where  “necessary help is impeded due to the extraordinary experience leaving siblings outside the circle of friends and parental grief community”  (Dyregrov  &  Dyregrov, 2005).   
From the Desk of Father Rubey
Sunday, January 01, 2017 by Father Rubey
As we begin a New Year, many survivors begin or continue on their grief journey. In the immediate aftermath of losing a loved person to suicide survivors are in a state of shock. They can’t believe that this loved one actually took their life. For some this fact can be very difficult to admit, the unspeakable act of suicide has happened to their family now. Survivors oftentimes walk around in a daze for a long time trying to figure out why and what lead this loved one to perform such an awful and destructive act.